Honesty, Openness. and Keeping Silent

Tonight I've been thinking a lot about honesty. The talk of honesty has come up today in three separate conversations with three different groups of people so I figured God must be trying to tell me something. There's so many levels of honesty that it's hard for me to wrap my head around it all so I will try to clear my thoughts.
The one conversation I had was on the front we put up. I know I've shared on this before but it is something I think about a lot. Where is that line between oversharing and helping? There is so much to this. Some things we don't need to hear. I don't need to hear that my child is hard to deal with (shockingly enough I know this), I don't need to hear you don't want my life (no worries, I don't want yours because I love my own), I don't need to hear that we're going to need a bigger house (I live in it). I remember a woman that I dealt with growing up that felt the need to tell everyone everything that came to her mind no matter how hurtful it was. She said it was her "personality." I call crap on that. Some things people don't need to hear and you can filter your talk. Use your honesty to help but if it's not helpful and may be hurtful you can keep it to yourself.
Then there's the other side of this that I lived in most of my life. I went through most of my life hiding the truth of who I was. No one needed to know that I thought I was ugly, no one needed to know that I didn't feel wanted by people, no one needed to know how hard it was for me being  in a large group of people. I tried to hide it behind an "I'm too cool" front and in the end people thought I was stuck up. No one needed to see the real me.
It's only been in the last several years that I've really let people see the real me. Hardships will do that to you. You can't keep hiding. It's amazing how when you open yourself up people start opening up to you. I've had so many people open up to me about their infertility because of reading my blog and that encourages me so much.
We all have struggles and we try to hide them. If we would just let people in and open up we could help so many more people. Whether it's infertility, anorexia, post partum depression, insecurity, and so on. Open up and let people in and be honest with who you really are. God wants to use us all.